Why Is My Parent With Dementia Hiding Things?

We’ve all experienced that moment of sheer panic when we can’t find our keys or wallet. It’s frustrating and disorienting. Now, picture this happening multiple times a day, coupled with an overwhelming sense of confusion and fear. This is a common experience for those with dementia. To make things even more unsettling, the person with dementia may often be hiding the objects themselves, typically in places you’re not likely to look.

So, why is your parent with dementia hiding things? There are several key issues that may be at play.

• Memory loss and confusion: Hiding items can be a manifestation of the confusion and memory loss that accompany dementia. As memory fades, a person with dementia may no longer remember where they placed their belongings, leading them to hide items in what seems like a safe spot. This action can give them a sense of security and help alleviate their anxiety about losing things.
• Paranoia and suspicion: Dementia often brings about an increased sense of paranoia and suspicion. The person may become suspicious of those around them, fearing that others might take their possessions. This heightened sense of mistrust can prompt them to hide their belongings in an attempt to protect them.
• Loss of organizational skills: It might become challenging for someone with dementia to understand the purpose of everyday objects or recall where they belong. Hiding items can be a misdirected attempt at organization, a way to manage the overwhelming task of keeping track of their environment.
• Need for engagement: Rummaging and hiding can be a form of engagement or activity for someone with dementia. As they lose the ability to engage in more complex activities, these simpler actions can provide a sense of purpose and occupation. These activities can fill their time and offer a feeling of accomplishment.

Understanding the reasons behind this behavior can help you approach the situation with empathy and patience. Try:

• Creating a safe and structured environment: Ensure that their living space is organized and free of hazards. Consistency in the arrangement of furniture and personal items can reduce confusion and make it easier for them to find what they need.
• Labeling common hiding spots: Clearly label drawers, cupboards, and storage areas. This can serve as a helpful reminder of where things belong and can reduce the likelihood of items being hidden in unusual places.
• Maintaining a routine: A predictable daily routine can provide a sense of security and reduce anxiety. Regularly scheduled activities, meals, and rest times can help create a structured environment that feels safe and familiar.
• Providing engaging, meaningful activities: Keep their minds and hands busy with activities that are appropriate for their abilities and interests. Simple tasks like sorting, folding, or working with sensory objects can be both calming and fulfilling.

We’re also here to partner with you to alleviate the underlying causes of hiding behaviors and other challenging effects of dementia. Contact us at (866) 940-4343 to learn more about our specialized and compassionate in-home dementia care in San Rafael, Santa Rosa, Novato, and across the Bay Area.

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